Cunnilingus is a way for a man as petting a woman during sex, but many women may be uncomfortable with being licked.
It’s not uncommon for women to give a man a blow job without thinking twice, but when it comes time for them to give themselves a cunnilingus, they often refuse out of embarrassment.
Cunnilingus is the act of letting go of the embarrassment and opening yourself up to the pleasure of cunnilingus, so it would be a shame not to have it done.
If you understand the psychology of men who want to do cunnilingus and prepare for it beforehand, the embarrassment can be greatly reduced, so let’s look at this along with how to deal with it.
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Why is cunnilingus embarrassing?
There are actually quite a few people who think, “I can lick a man’s penis, but I’m too embarrassed to ask him to lick my own vagina…
Because the penis protrudes outward, it doesn’t get wet except for urine and urethral ball gland fluid (a liquid commonly called pre-cum), and it stays basically dry.
However, a woman’s vagina is always moist with urine, love juice, and discharge, and it’s easy to smell. Also, many men want a blow job but not many want to give cunnilingus, and that’s because women are not used to having cunnilingus done to them.
There are three common reasons why women are embarrassed to have cunnilingus done to them.
Not confident about the shape or color of vagina
One of the reasons why women are uncomfortable with being licked is because they are unsure of the shape and color of their vaginas.
The vagina varies greatly in shape and color from person to person, but the labia majora and labia minora, which are the leafy folds at the entrance, are the places where the vagina varies greatly in shape and color from person to person.
They may be pink or darker, and some have large folds while others have few or no folds.
It is said that the more experienced a person has sex, the darker the color and the larger the labia majora and labia minora will be, and this is because they are more likely to be darkened by friction.
However, for some men who have had a lot of sex, the labia majora and labia minora are underdeveloped and small, while for others, the labia majora and labia minora are well-developed and large even though they have not had much experience.
Just as the penis, the male organ, varies in size, length and thickness regardless of sex experience, female genitalia vary in color and shape from person to person, so there’s no need to be ashamed of that.
There is no need to be embarrassed about it, because there is no need to worry about the shape of your vagina, even though it is an area that is usually difficult to check by yourself.
Worried about the smell
Many people are concerned about the smell of their lower body, but it’s unlikely that anyone has ever smelled their vagina directly.
You may have smelled love juice and discharge on your fingers, but only your partner can put his or her face close to your vagina and smell it, so many women are worried about what to do if they do.
Unlike the protruding penis, the vagina has a buried structure, which also makes it easier smell from all the liquids that comes in contact.
Most of the time, love juice is odorless and tasteless, but vaginal discharge can have a strong odor, and if you haven’t showered, you can smell the ammonia of urine, which is not a good odor.
However, if a man keeps refusing to have cunnilingus because of the smell, it will make him feel uncomfortable and the woman will feel responsible.
It is possible to improve the smell of the vagina to some extent by taking care of it every day, which will be explained in detail in the preparation section later on.
Don’t know why but feel resistant
If you say, “I don’t mind having someone do cunnilingus for me, but I’m kind of resistant to it…” you need to understand what the reasons are for your resistance.
If you don’t know if it’s the embarrassment of having your vagina looked at by a man or if it’s something else, you can’t move forward.
If you have no idea what the cause is, but you are resistant to it, it may be due to the discomfort of having a man’s face on your lower body.
Women who are not used to being cunnilingus usually feel a great deal of discomfort when a man’s face is on their lower body, and they may even think about it in a way that they wouldn’t normally think about.
Despite the fact that they take care of their bodies on a daily basis, once they start wondering if their vagina smells okay, or if their hair is in good condition, they will find it difficult to concentrate on sex.
It is important to remember that there are times when a man may be resistant to cunnilingus. Try to get your man to do cunnilingus on a regular basis to reduce resistance, and take care of your vagina on a daily basis.
Male Psychology of Cunnilingus
Many women are not comfortable with having their vaginas licked, but have you ever wondered why men want to do cunnilingus? Many women think, “My partner wants to do cunnilingus, but I can’t seem to find the courage to allow it…
However, if you understand the psychology behind why men want to do it, your resistance to it will likely ease a bit.
Most of the time, it’s for the sake of the partner you love or as an expression of affection, so you want to fulfill a man’s desire to have cunnilingus as much as possible.
Here are some of the psychological reasons why men want to give cunnilingus on women and why they want to do it.
Understanding his feelings will lower the hurdle of being licked and will change the future sex for the better.
He wants you to be happy (expression of affection)
One of the most common reasons men cite when they want to do cunnilingus on women is that it’s an expression of affection that comes from wanting to please a woman.
Many women don’t get the pleasure of sex from insertion, and many times, sex ends with only the man ejaculating. When this happens, a woman may feel incomplete and frustrated.
However, cunnilingus stimulates the clitoris, which women are more likely to feel, with their tongues, so even those who can’t feel it through penetration can feel good about it.
It can also help women who don’t usually get licked, to develop new sexual areas.
The sensation of being stimulated by a finger on the clitoris is quite different from being stimulated by the tongue. The tongue is soft and warm, which gives it a unique feeling, and depending on how fast a man moves his tongue, it can be intermittent and pleasurable.
It is important to understand that this is an act that can make a woman feel good, and it is an expression of affection for a man.
He wants you to have an orgasm
When you think of orgasms during sex, it is probably when the clitoris or G-spot is being stimulated by a finger and during penetration, but in fact, a very small percentage of women can get pleasure from anything other than the clitoris.
Even when masturbating, if a woman can cum from clitoral stimulation but cannot get pleasure from the vagina, she is less likely to feel pleasure from sex.
If a man understands this, then cunnilingus is an action he takes because he wants his partner to feel orgasmic.
Since clitoral stimulation can help relatively anyone reach orgasm, having a cunnilingus can help you feel an orgasm on the clitoris.
If a man also feels sorry that he is the only one who has reached climax, then he would want a woman to reach orgasm as well. In this case, it’s a kindness on the part of the man, so you should try to accept it with open arms.
Wants to see your reaction
Another reason why men want to do cunnilingus is because they want to see her reaction.
Men want to get visually aroused, which can excite them as well, and seeing her cute reactions can also make their affection stronger again.
Reacting in a way that makes you look cute at this time can add to the atmosphere of the place, so it’s a good idea to interject small tricks in between.
When you’re being licked, it’s unlikely that you’ll get licked suddenly out of nowhere, so try closing your legs and letting out a breath as if you’re a little shy when your man’s face is on your thighs or near your waist, which will increase his excitement.
Also, to show that you feel good even though you are embarrassed when you are being cunnilingus, try closing your legs a little bit and occasionally letting out a gasp as you do so.
Has fetish for smell
Some men who want to have cunnilingus also like the smell of a woman’s vagina.
This is not true for all men who say they want to give cunnilingus, as it depends on their sexual habits, but it’s also where women’s pheromones come from, so it’s not strange for someone to like the smell of a woman’s vagina.
The smell will vary depending on your condition and what you eat, but due to its weak acidity, many will smell a little sour in many cases.
The odor changes in proportion to the amount secreted, so the stronger the odor, the better for some men.
However, it’s not just that they want to smell your vagina, it’s also the place where women’s body emits the most pheromones, so it’s possible that they are attracted by these pheromones.
I know there may be some resistance, but if a man likes it, you can take care of it and try to have sex with him just as he is.
Wants to tease you
Cunnilingus is mainly a petting to the clitoris and vagina, and when licked by the tip of the tongue, it feels like a penetrating sensation.
In particular, the clitoris is the part of the body that reacts hypersensitively to external stimulation, so from a man’s point of view, it is also the part of the body that is most likely to fiddle with a woman.
Since external come can reach orgasm when intermittent stimulation is given, it is possible to come if you keep licking it with your tongue.
However, if a woman stops licking just before she comes, she will feel very frustrated because she will be stopped just before orgasm and she will not be able to hold back and will beg the man for more.
Some men want to do cunnilingus for this purpose, and the goal is to rush the woman and see her lose her patience.
Furthermore, once you have an external come, you will want to insert it, so if the man doesn’t insert himself here, he will be rushed in this situation as well.
Wanting to rush is a common behavior of men with an S- temperament, and is an expression of their desire to control a woman in the way they want.
Masochistic tendencies
Contrary to the desire to rush, men with an M disposition also tend to prefer cunnilingus.
This applies to those who want to feel a pseudo “dominated” sensation that is done on command by a woman, as they physically position themselves lower down by putting their face close to a woman’s lower body.
This may be very surprising to a woman who has never thought of a man as an M, but it can be even more pleasurable for her to accept her partner’s sexuality.
These men are sometimes pleased when a woman pulls her hair a little too hard or forces his face into their vagina while they are doing cunnilingus, for example.
Of course, you’ll have to listen to your partner’s reaction, but as you determine what type of partner you have, your sexual habits will gradually become clearer and clearer.
What to do when cunnilingus is embarrassing
“I may lick a man’s penis, but I am inevitably embarrassed to have my own vagina licked!” It’s a waste of time to think it’s embarrassing because men also do it because they want to lick you, but I think there are people who are resistant to it.
If you can’t keep refusing because you are embarrassed, then in the worst case, your relationship may develop into a breakup due to sexual discrepancies.
You want to avoid this as much as possible, so if you’re really embarrassed, ask your partner if he or she would be willing to do the following The man will be able to deal with the woman’s feelings, and you can make a point where you can both give in.
Dimming the lights
Many women are embarrassed to have their cunnilingus done, often because they don’t want them to be able to see their vagina. They want to proceed with sex without seeing too much of the shape, color, or under hair if possible.
So one suggestion for a point of mutual concession is to turn off the lights. Turning off the lights will reduce visibility and make it harder to see your vagina and facial expressions.
This is a great way for women who don’t want to be able to see their vaginas, but from a man who wants to see all of a woman’s body and facial expressions, it’s a little disappointing because he can hardly see them.
I recommend that you both talk to each other and tell each other that you are really embarrassed, and then decide whether you want the lights to be completely dimmed or thinly visible, etc.
Have them cover you with a blanket or something else
In addition to dimming the lights, you can also drape a blanket or towel over the woman from the waist down and have her do it in it.
When the lights are turned off, visibility is very poor and you won’t be able to hear their expressions during caresses or during insertion.
Some men need to be visually aroused in addition to physical stimulation to feel climax, so instead of turning off the lights, ask them to cover you with a blanket or something similar while you are doing cunnilingus, which will reduce your vision.
The downside is that if you perform cunnilingus in the blanket, the heat will build up and the man will get hotter.
It also makes it harder for him to take in oxygen, which makes it difficult to cunnilingus under the blanket for long periods of time. You’ll need to try to keep it as short as possible, and you’ll need to discuss this with your partner before doing it.
Preparing for a good cunnilingus
Cunnilingus is an act that makes a woman feel loved and happy, and it can also feel quite nice.
Even if you were resistant to it at first, once you have it done, it feels so good that you say, “I don’t want to have sex without cunnilingus! Some people think it is a good idea.
Cunnilingus can give you such a good feeling, but if you prepare in advance to eliminate the embarrassment, you will not have to worry about anything and you will be able to open yourself up and immerse yourself in the pleasure.
Here’s an explanation of the best preparations you can make in advance to get a good cunnilingus.
Many people are embarrassed to be licked, which is a complex due to their lack of preparation, so check the following matters daily so that you can be in the mood for sex at any time.
Under hair treatment
One of the reasons why cunnilingus can be embarrassing is because of under hair.
Both men and women have underhairs, but the amount of hair and the extent of hair growth varies from person to person.
Some men are turned off when they find out that a woman’s underhair is untreated or thicker than their own, so it’s best to at least have your underhair trimmed.
The most widely used method of treatment is shaving with a razor.
The advantage of shaving is that it’s easy to do, but it can also sting when a man cums because the hairs have a sharp cross-section, which can be painful.
It is recommended to shave as close to the roots of the hair as possible, or use scissors to reduce the amount of hair.
There are also other methods such as hair removal and Brazilian waxing.
The hair removal method will leave your skin smooth and healthy and will not interfere with your cunnilingus. However, it is costly and time-consuming, so it is not suitable for when you want to get rid of your under hair during the most recent sex.
Brazilian waxing is a method of treating your underhair by applying the wax to your pubic area and removing it all at once when it dries, but few people do this on a daily basis because it causes a tremendous amount of pain when you remove it.
If you take care of your under hair in a way that suits you on a regular basis, you won’t be in a hurry, and you’ll feel less embarrassed when you need to take care of it.
Always take a bath first
If you’re worried about the smell of your vagina, it’s a good idea to take a bath before having sex. If you sweat, your body will also smell of sweat, and your vagina will be steamed up, which will make it smell even worse.
Also, if you have sex at night after spending the day, there will be a lot of dirt in your vagina and the smell of urine will still be there. If you have sex after taking a bath, you will have cleaned yourself, so you won’t have to worry about the smell.
The places you want to wash especially carefully are the neck, sides, under the breasts and pubic area, where you tend to sweat.
The entrance to the vagina and the folds of the labia minora tend to collect dirt, so be sure to wash them off gently with soap and water.
Showering before sex is fine, so you don’t need to wash your hair or your entire body. Do your underarm hair treatment beforehand, and only concentrate on washing the parts of your body that smell bad in the shower just before sex.
Do not rinse off too much!
Although women who are concerned about the smell wash carefully with soap when taking a shower, too much washing is not good for the body.
If you wash your vagina with soap and water because you are particularly concerned about the smell of your vulva, the good bacteria called indigenous bacteria that always exist in humans will die.
When the number of indigenous bacteria is reduced, the environment becomes more prone to bad bacteria, which in turn can make the smell stronger.
Overwashing is also not a good idea, so be aware of how to wash properly, for example, only washing the entrance to the vagina and not the inside of the vagina.
Special soap is also effective for odor
If you can’t help but notice the smell, it’s easy to over-wash your skin.
Commercially available body washes and soaps are not recommended because they have a strong cleaning power and deprive the skin of moisture and indigenous bacteria.
However, in order to keep the skin clean, it is also true that there is a place where washing with water is not enough. In such a case, the special soap sold on the Internet for pubic cleaning is effective.
The special soaps are not too harsh in their cleaning power and will cleanse only the odor-causing substances. You can buy it online, as it’s often not sold in drug stores or grocery stores.
Beware of smelly foods before sex
One way to prevent odors is to avoid smelly foods before sex.
Garlic, leeks and spices are some of the foods that have a strong odor, but if you eat a lot of these foods on a daily basis, your body odor will get worse, it will cause bad breath, and it will also affect your love juice.
Try not to eat these foods on a regular basis, or try to eat them less often. Also, if it’s right before sex, bad breath is the one thing that can affect you the most.
If your mouth smells bad during kissing and caressing, it can diminish the feelings of a man who has just been fired up. To prevent this from happening, be careful not to eat a lot of foods that have a strong smell in your regular diet.
Summary: Get rid of the embarrassment and feel great with cunnilingus!
In this article, we’ve discussed the psychology of men who want to have cunnilingus, what to do when embarrassed, and how to prepare in advance to feel good about cunnilingus.
Men often want to do cunnilingus because they want to do it for their women, and it’s a way of showing affection. There are so many people who give blowjobs but are uncomfortable with being licked.
This is an area that is usually difficult to see for yourself, so if you’re not prepared, you’ll have a lot of things to worry about, such as smell and underhair.
If you take care of it on a daily basis, you won’t have to worry about it when the time comes, and it will alleviate some of the embarrassment you may feel.
Prepare well in advance, and you’ll have the best cunnilingus you’ve ever had, and you’ll feel great!
